Comments on: Honest Give and Take http://gethelpwithporn.com/2010/01/honest-give-and-take/ Dealing with Porn and Saving your Relationship Mon, 19 Mar 2012 13:41:12 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: Garry http://gethelpwithporn.com/2010/01/honest-give-and-take/comment-page-1/#comment-3206 Garry Thu, 23 Feb 2012 12:15:43 +0000 http://gethelpwithporn.com/?p=257#comment-3206 Garry and I really appreciated your post and hearing that our journey is supporting you and your husband to find some connection with yourselves and each other. I think that is the key to Rumi's field, it is a place where we can bring all the parts of ourselves and trust that in some way they are in the service of life. Sometimes it can take a whole lot of curiosity and patience to see how they are but in our experience, well worth the effort. May you two continue to cultivate the intimacy between you and do let us know if there is anything else you need as we really enjoy supporting others in any way we can! Also if so inclined to write a review of the book and how it is supporting you on Amazon it helps others get an idea of how the book could support them. No pressure, only if you would enjoy doing it! Keep us posted as we would love to hear how it goes. Garry and I really appreciated your post and hearing that our journey is supporting you and your husband to find some connection with yourselves and each other. I think that is the key to Rumi’s field, it is a place where we can bring all the parts of ourselves and trust that in some way they are in the service of life. Sometimes it can take a whole lot of curiosity and patience to see how they are but in our experience, well worth the effort.

May you two continue to cultivate the intimacy between you and do let us know if there is anything else you need as we really enjoy supporting others in any way we can!

Also if so inclined to write a review of the book and how it is supporting you on Amazon it helps others get an idea of how the book could support them. No pressure, only if you would enjoy doing it!

Keep us posted as we would love to hear how it goes.

]]> By: struggling thru it http://gethelpwithporn.com/2010/01/honest-give-and-take/comment-page-1/#comment-3166 struggling thru it Thu, 16 Feb 2012 15:16:08 +0000 http://gethelpwithporn.com/?p=257#comment-3166 First, I want to say THANK YOU for writing your book Love and Pornography. My husband and I have just finished reading it. This issue greatly affects us and for the first time in years of heated battles and near breakups, we feel a glimmer of hope that we have never felt before. In reference to your post, I find we are tempted to get angry when our partner tells us something that is difficult to hear because it hurts or makes us angry, yet knowing that being open and honest is the key to rebuilding the foundation of a relationship weakened by years of animosity, mistrust and opposing view points. We have begun using the concept of Rumi's field, that you write about in your book, and visualize ourselves there -- no right and no wrong -- as we discuss these tender bits that we are afraid to share with one another. We also have found that for us, we need to work on issues that arise in our relationship in small increments, as emotions still run high from years of damaging behaviors on both parts, and we risk setback to the positive gains if we push to hard to find an immediate resolution. First, I want to say THANK YOU for writing your book Love and Pornography. My husband and I have just finished reading it. This issue greatly affects us and for the first time in years of heated battles and near breakups, we feel a glimmer of hope that we have never felt before. In reference to your post, I find we are tempted to get angry when our partner tells us something that is difficult to hear because it hurts or makes us angry, yet knowing that being open and honest is the key to rebuilding the foundation of a relationship weakened by years of animosity, mistrust and opposing view points. We have begun using the concept of Rumi’s field, that you write about in your book, and visualize ourselves there — no right and no wrong — as we discuss these tender bits that we are afraid to share with one another. We also have found that for us, we need to work on issues that arise in our relationship in small increments, as emotions still run high from years of damaging behaviors on both parts, and we risk setback to the positive gains if we push to hard to find an immediate resolution.

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